Being single better than dating
So, in Paul's initial response to their questions, he validates their desire to remain single by saying "It is good for a man not to touch a woman." In other translations, "It is good for a man not to marry."Right off the bat in 1 Cor 7 Paul says, it's okay to be single! If you’ve bought into the belief that your lack of being romantically attached to anyone makes you less of a human being, consider the counsel of Paul.In 1 Cor7:7 Paul addresses the unmarried and widows and says, "I wish everyone could get along without marrying, just as I do. God gives some the gift of a husband or wife, and others he gives the gift of being able to stay happily unmarried." (The Living Bible) Paul himself was probably a widow because he was part of the Sanhedrin and it was a rule that you had to be married.Singleness is no better or worse than marriage Write that statement down and rehearse it to yourself whenever Someone says: No, Paul says it's a gift, whether it’s for a season or a lifetime. I believe that if you are single and you don't have the gift and your life is as it should be before God, that God will fulfill your desire.John Mac Arthur says in his sermon on 1 Cor -40 called “The Blessings of Being Single,” “Some of you have the gift of singleness and these are most suitable to you. Until then, and you don't want to rush into anything, until then you can enjoy the benefits of being single.You love someone so much, yet you know something’s amiss. And, yes, sometimes they come back, but oftentimes, it’s too late – you’ve felt better being alone than when you were with them.Or they don’t come back, and it’s still too late – because you’ve moved on and found , it’s a great book and shows that Amy Poehler is just like one of us—a human being who loves, who hurts, who has anxiety, and who goes after what she wants (and needs).Unlike some church's who believe celibacy is equated with greater holiness or some cultures who mandate arranged marriages, Paul clarifies in 1 Cor 7:6 that the decision to marry or remain celibate is a matter for the individual to decide.
In it he shares 8 Biblical examples of people who were single or who had spent a great deal of their lives single.
Interestingly, while most of us tend to start with the question “Who should I marry” or “When should I get married,” Paul starts by addressing the question “Should I get married”?
Although being married is the norm for most people, God also designed some people to remain unmarried.
Whether married, single, divorced or widowed we should live for the glory of God.
*The 5 main points are from John Mac Arthur's sermon on 1 Cor -40, but the content is mine unless I directly quote him.